Jun 24 2010
I have made another research and I think it’s nice to share it with everyone here, here is what my opinion about this…
In life we will often encountered with different people,and by luck they become your friend or even your spouse. But sometimes breakups, relationship problems comes unexpectedly and you ended up hurting in your heart.
Sometimes, you may realized that you have been cheated, used or suddenly someone want to break up with you…..you will like, ended in turmoil. You feel like the whole world is useless and we will go through a process which is called “resentment”.
So why resentment? Well, humans always have this, they think of the cause of the event and in the end may blame on themselves for those who is low self esteem.Is resentment good? My answer is NO!Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain. But I want to ask here, why want to continue living in pain? Wouldn’t it be time wasting? Well, remember this:
Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Your past is past! Nothing will change it.You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.
It may be hard to let it go….and you wanted to get a revenge or something like in need of a replacement…because you “so-called” cannot live without that person and in the end you found another one…as replacement…Revenge is not a good answer, as I said in FB, when you are planning on a revenge, dig two graves…. You may ended up hurting them! This is a common emotion humans have….let me put it in a sentence :”At first when you were together you made them take you for granted making you think that they cannot live without you because you poured so much efforts into this relationship …but when they leave you, it is the vice versa….instead you will start to think you can’t live without them.”
It’s sad to think….why the victim was you….but do think positively,the end is not here and don’t let emotions conquer you! When that time comes, it’s time for you to let it go. If u let it go and continue live happily, you may have prove to them that he/she who dumbs you last time is an asshole! We learn from mistakes,everyday….and we learn and grow from it, that’s what makes us today.
And remember to appreciate the people around you who care for you and help you, you should be thankful to have friends caring for you when you are down. =)
Thats all for now, anything free to comment ^^